Overcoming Stress and Negativity, and Becoming more efficient

  • Is this thought in any way useful?
  • Is it true? (Can I absolutely know that it’s true)
  • Is this just an old story that my mind is playing out of habit?
  • Does this thought help me take effective action?
  • Is this thought helpful or is my mind just babbling on?
  • What is the truth? My deepest truth?
  • What do I really want to feel or create in the situation? How can I move towards that?
  • How can I make the best of this situation?
  • Who would I be without this negative thought?
  • What new story or thought can I focus on now?
  • How can I see this in a different or new way?
  • What can I be grateful for in this moment?
  • Exercise: Yeah Yeah Yeah… you must have heard it a lot and I am saying it too. Hit a gym, Run, take those stairs instead of lifts, keep yourself active, you will see instant positive change not only physically but also mentally. Try it, you will love it.
  • Sleep: A good night sleep of 8 hours works like wonders. Turn off screens one hour before you want to go to bed. You should also aim to go to bed at roughly the same time each day so that your mind and body get used to a predictable bedtime routine
  • Eat Well: Eating a regular, well-balanced diet will help you feel better in general. It may also help control your moods. Your meals should be full of vegetables, fruit, whole grains, and lean protein for energy. And don’t skip any. It’s not good for you and can put you in a bad mood, which can actually increase your stress.
  • Talk to Someone: If things are bothering you, talking about them can help lower your stress. You can talk to family members, friends, a trained professional, a colleague, or a therapist. Talking can work by either distracting you from your stressful thoughts or releasing some of the built-up tension by discussing it. Stress can cloud your judgement and prevent you from seeing things clearly. Talking things through can help you find solutions to your stress and put your problems into perspective.
  • Self-Talk/ Diary: Not all of us are comfortable talking about something that’s bothering us. You can still have it all let it out. Maintaining a diary can be very helpful to become more aware of the situation and it might also give more insight about ourselves and the trigger that made us miserable. You can also talk to yourself. It’s called self-talk and we all do it. But you need to make sure it’s positive and not negative. So listen closely to what you’re thinking or saying when you’re stressed out. If you’re giving yourself a negative message, change it to a positive one. Accept that you can’t do things perfectly no matter how hard you try. You also can’t control everything in your life. So do yourself a favor and stop thinking you can do so much. And don’t forget to keep up your sense of humor. Laughter goes a long way towards making you feel relaxed.
  • Learn to say ‘No’: Many of us find it difficult. But at some point of time we have to take a stand and simply say NO. To learn to say “No”, you need to understand why you find it difficult. Many people find it hard to say “No” because they want to help and are trying to be nice and to be liked. For others, it is a fear of conflict, rejection or missed opportunities. Remember that these barriers to saying “No” are all self-created. Know your limits and stick to them. Whether in your personal or professional life, taking on more than you can handle is a surefire recipe for stress. Distinguish between the “shoulds” and the “musts” and, when possible, say “no” to taking on too much. You can try by saying “Now is not a good time”, I would love to but..”, “I am sorry, I can’t commit to this”, “I have other priorities”
  • Identify Source and Eliminate: While it’s easy to identify major stressors such as changing jobs, moving, pinpointing the sources of chronic stress can be more complicated. It’s all too easy to overlook how your own thoughts, feelings, and behaviors contribute to your everyday stress levels. Sure, you may know that you’re constantly worried about work deadlines, but maybe it’s your procrastination, rather than the actual job demands, that is causing the stress. Figure out what are the biggest causes of stress in your life. Is it your job, your commute, your schoolwork? If you’re able to identify what they are, see if you’re able to eliminate them from your life, or at least reduce them. If you can’t identify the main causes of your stress, try keeping a stress journal. Make note of when you become most anxious and see if you can determine a pattern, then find ways to remove or lessen those triggers.



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Mohammed Rafi

Mohammed Rafi

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